Who said I was jealous? You did. Is that an accurate assessment?
Do I want what they have? No.
Do I envy what they have? No. I condemn and ridicule it.
Do I want their wives? No.
Do I want their lifestyles? No.
I need a decent partner of my own. Just one.
I am ready for mutual investment. Others are not, and because of that inability, I take the blame.
Yes. Lack of love. No one is able to mutually invest in a loving relationship.
Who & how have you informed/asked? Thatâs step one in informed consent toward mutual investment.
Some of these details are personal. Iâm not discussing those details here.
Letâs just say I approached, was genuinely interested, kind and courteous and it was made very clear that no âarrangementâ or âcommitmentâ of any kind was desired.
You ruled out billions of people you have never even met. Thatâs a cognitive distortion.
But in a sense, it is also accurate, since none of us are perfect. Thatâs why grace is required. But it is possible to discern between someone who is not ready to be mutually invested, and someone who is just temporarily derailed or sidetracked from that investment (losing the war between their competing desires, versus unresisted surrender).
Itâs a perspective resulting from years of isolation. How could I see it any differently?
All Iâve interacted with for 15 years is paid employees. No love in a paycheck.
The statement is applicable. There are billions of people out there. Not one wished to be a decent, loving, loyal partner with me.
Perhaps. But Iâm at the age now I really havenât the time for that. Iâm grown.
Plus I already expressed myself to someone who just took it and ran. Like a criminal. Iâm empty.
They didnât know you. And if by paid employees, you mean mental health workers, they were ethically barred from partnering with you in that sense. They donât count. And if you mean prostitutes, youâre looking in the wrong place.
Exactly, and they wonât. Thatâs precisely why the example is incongruent.
Not even a quarter of those people will cross paths with me.
I wonât be able to communicate with billions of people. Nor do I want to. The sheer number of people is irrelevant, actually not irrelevant in the sense of how disheartening it is.
Are you serious.
Based on one person, youâve written off billions of others?
Even people beyond their reproductive years enjoy living out the rest of their lives mutually invested.
Youâre just making excuses. Conversation over.
Why is the trash can visible in the post edit menu if we canât delete posts?
Is that a question? Are you talking about mental health staff, or prostitutes? If neither, what sort of paid employees are you referring to â coworkers? People under your employ? People paid to provide excellent customer service at whatever establishment you are patronizing? Who?
Iâm not deleting my reply. You canât trick me.
Based on that experience and on several others. Plus factoring in that I do not approach and usually keep to myself. And factoring in my age and simply being realistic. Also factoring in the state of promiscuous, dirty, disloyal society.
What do you mean? I was referring to my own comments.
I actively approached for the first time in years and was essentially rejected. Not making excuses.
Employees at the supermarket, at Loweâs, at WalMart. Those employees. Any and all employees. They wouldnât even step in the door without payment promised. Thatâs for money, not for people, not out of love. Employees are competing against others for survival. Not only is that not love, it is open competition for resources.
If I paid you would you keep talking? Would you say âhave a nice dayâ like they do at WalMart?
See how fake and unloving this society is?
Remember how courteous you were here:
Youâre loveless, robotic people. Victims of society. A loveless, shallow society struggling in vain to fix itself while its victims suffer.
Arenât you an employee? Donât you do it for more than the money? Youâre talking about things that are not mutually exclusive.