I really don’t understand what it does. It’s just a word really, it’s not like the feelings you have with your partner is increased at the time of your marriage or anything. It’s just a silly ritual that really does nothing.
Does it give a sense of security to women? Does it mean the woman can start eating junkfood and gaining weight? Does it mean the man no longer can think for himself and has no social life after marriage? Why? Underneath it all, what is marriage really?
Marriage is a financial contract. That you don’t know this suggests that you are an american.
I’d argue that marriage is a ritual that grew out of a financial construct – but mushrooms aren’t poop, are they?
Marriage is probably what you make it. Like a lot of other stuff.
Marriage is a quicksand puddle you voluntarily enter so the break up becomes harder for each party the longer they remain – harder than it would be if the relationship was just on a friendship level…mostly for the sake of kids I believe, though survival must have played a major role in early marriage. Quicksand hath been created and maintained by such things as religion, in which the uninion itself was sanctified and the breakup condemned with the threat of death in life, usually for the woman, and eternal hell in the afterlife, or as lately, in secularist societies, by law in which you are threatened with losing half your shit, and most of your mind, in the break up. In other words, you enter marriage because it is hard to get out of.
So marriage is a trap?
No. Marriage is the bad thing that happens to you if you get caught up in the trap.
So the trap is the female?
It’s been argued by many, (none of whom I can think of in particular), that it’s a particular attribute of the female anatomy which is the actual trap. Overall women can’t really exercise that much control because they’re not as strong or intelligent as men, but there’s that little bit of kryptonite that’s been the death of so many men’s dreams. Handle it carefully.
I’m fairly aware of how females play the game. I just don’t condone it. I think it’s the wrong way to go. It’s also why I don’t get any.
I’ve always said that the hardest part of getting laid is keeping a straight face while saying the things that you just have to say.
I really shouldn’t be reading this at the current juncture in my life… I’m engaged and on the verge of marriage…
But since I did read this and can no longer sleep comfortably… I will try and salvage the notion of marriage by simply saying this:
It’s a I-really-mean-this type promis… It’s also a social status… and a “right” to severely harm anyone who should attempt to woo my wife…
Other than that… it means nothing…
couples only remain together for as long as they choose to, anyway… married or not…
Nice course of action. I suppose I can work on my skills of how to lie. I’m a bit rusty.
You guys are funny! Marriage is different for everyone. Some its financial, some its hormonal, some its personal security, and some its actual love.
The legal aspect is done for inheirtence purposes for descendents, thanks to lawyers (the bane of all marriages).
Marriage licenses are to make sure you are held responsible for your little progeny and that you don’t walk off leaving the other person holding the bills while you get the loot. ( Humans are so wonderful).
But, the marriage we all aspire to and dream about is finding the person that fills you and completes you. As rare as this is, we all search for it. Some of us get lucky and find it or it gets dropped in their lap without searching. Real love is a crap shoot. You must be willing to gamble all in order to win the real deal.
Okay, Kris - here’s a question. How many times should you ask? If I ask the woman I love to marry me, which i haven’t yet, she will say no. How many times should I ask her? Until she tells me to go away and leave her alone? I think that’s about right - what do you think?
Explain the differance between hormonal, and ‘actual love’. I really don’t know if there is a differance, so convince me otherwise.
Perhaps love only truely exists for females.
Maybe I’m reading too much into this statement even after I pull it out of it’s original context, but I have to call bullshit on this one. It seems to support the very prevalent notion that love is somehow difficult.
It has been my experience that if one decides love is difficult that person will find a way to make it so.
Am I right in associating the statement you made with the more general notion that love is difficult?
what’s the difference between a union without a contract and no penalties for ending it, and a union of marriage? Answer: in entering marriage, departure from union becomes hard in that one faces severe consequences from society by getting either shunned morally, or fucked legally. This hardship, is in my opinion, the only purpose to a marriage union in lieu of a lifelong friendship.
If you love someone, then be with them. There is no need to make the union a marriage, unless one party feels their partner will want to leave, in which case the first party will probably want something restricting, or at the very least making it hard for their partner to leave.
It’s why we have verbal categories such as “just friends,” “friends with benefits,” “boyfriend/girlfriend,” “finances” and the last and hardest to get out of "marriage, in which barriers with some sort of difficulty to get out of are created. In simple friendship, you could tell your friend simply and honestly that you don’t like their company anymore and nothing would come of it. The same could be said about friends with benefits. And it gets harder and harder from there on, up until we get to marriage which was for a long time impossible to get out of alive.
Love is the rosy-one-way-mirror-like barb wire around the barrier that makes entering marriage tempting and leaving it difficult …typically effective only to women, though some, well most, men have come to believe their own bullshit as well.
‘Cohabitation has been corrupted - by Marriage’ - F. N.
Nietzsche was quite the wordsmith, though his name wasn’t Smith, and once again he captures some great insight into relationships, with this cheeky little statement.
Relationships, one to another, cohabitation, in the strictest sense: the whole ‘living together’ as a ‘couple’ 'pairs (even Lovers), has been replaced by the new abstraction - ‘marriage’ - as a ‘contract’ as the ‘business of love’.
Cohabitation is an emotional and physical intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without the benefit of legal or religious sanction.