6 years for the record to clear? Are you on a consent decree like deferred prosecution or are you in a state that has a limit on how long they report?
Basically I’m asking are you convicted or deferred? You can get stuff off a criminal record in less than 6 years.
That may be a good idea. You’ll at least speak French afterwards.
Here´s a bit of French revolutionary spirit.
youtube.com/watch?v=eQwxh68kKYc&feature=kp
i have a bunch of ex cons within my family. One is serving 27 years for robbery, kidnapping rape. He was given a deal to go back to his country after serving ten, and serve the remainder there, or , stay here and be deported later. He chose to stay, prisons are more humane here. A nephew who dropped out of everything but drugs, can do nothing else but get married, have kids and then disappear from want of paying childcare. My son in law was caught with hard stuff, did five years, and then married my daughter. She is expecting a boy inOctober, she works a straight job, and gives him something his folks couldn’t give him. I would like to see some alternative to the great big parking lot thaT LOS ANGELES became, but am responsible for wife, grandkids and mortgages. I am totally, existentially reduced, and am at a low plateau of expecting the grass to be greener then here. Course being older, i am pretty much in affirmation of proving to myself, that i , unlike my great old dad, am able to be a family man, whatever that means. It’s all give and no take of course, but that’s the way perceived stupid, but really nice guys always end up. Hoping for some trace of it to come back, if by nothing other, then the presentation of what i consider to be the most important human, exemplary value: consistency.
I would change the expression “know love” to know “how to love”.
I don’t necessarily think that a teen, simply because he/she is one, doesn’t know how to love. That’s an individual thing, I feel. If someone has grown up in a loving environment, been well cared for, received attention, affection and love, and is by nature, loving, that person can grow into being a better parent than a much older person who is selfish and narcissistic.
We can all learn to be ‘better’ parents for as long as we live. We’re not perfect, we’re human. But the teenager will probably need guidance as to how to translate his/her love for the child into the right kind of do’s and don’ts - as do we at times.
It’s supposed to turn into a misdemeanor after a small period of time. Thankfully.
Suffice it to say I believe a parent is one to provide for their offspring.
That’s the most basic overview.
At the end of this month I am hoping to start a college/savings account for my daughter where if she needs access to money as she gets older it will be there waiting for her.
Of course it helps parenting a child when both of their parents are not separated. 
The next family I have is definitely going to be planned out much better than the last one. Need a better quality woman also.
Don’t know where you find a lot of those especially with all the pathetic examples I see everywhere nowadays.
Don’t ask Yourself that question.If you are seeking custody, and if You get it, next time You meet a likable woman, take Your daughter to meet her. Her choice should influence Yours, women are keen on recognizing good traits in each other. You would be doing her a favor.
That is true, my Dad and stepmom did just that with us kids. I have two stepbrothers that are to me my brothers not stepbrothers.
I have fourteen cousins and they are all insane.
No, not actually. Some of them are surprisingly normal.
You’d expect anyone to be at least completely insane. But there are exceptions to no rules and no rules to exceptional execution. There’s only trust and a scent of curling acidstrings in the blanket texture.
A parent is someone to whom the kid calls “Dad!”
Or “Hey Dad! I built a plane!”
(in practice we need to be considering that not every parent is of the masculine sex)
A non parent parenting device is someone to whom the kid calls
“Greta!”
Or “Hey, so… um can I go outside? I did everything you said.”
Or “Do we have Christmas this year?”
A parent will give the child pets or offer pets and other lifeforms and special gifts.
“Twenty parents is good, thirty parents is better.”
There is no reason anyone should say this. This on the other hand is more complex. And this is downright genius.
Interesting. I know a couple of parents who took the child to be at least as wise as themselves. This did not end well in the case of the oldest, except in that he expressed an exorbitant amount of original ideas while he was still alive.
I don’t believe in coddling a child or sheltering them too much.
This makes them dependent, lazy, spoiled, and inexperienced later in life. It’s the most horrible thing you could do to a child.
It stunts their mental growth.
I believe children should be challenged and sometimes be put into compromising situations so that they can be better developed overall as an individual.
I like how the ancient Spartans raised their children of course for the modern existence of living not as extreme compared to some of their more brutal practices.
There is obviously no one way to parent. Some personalities do it this way others do it that way. Some kids need this others need that. It seems that problems arise when matches are not made or compromises not made. Can education from childhood better prepare a person to be a better parent? I mean: add it to formal education. Creat a subject that educates over years.
I would like to add:
Does anyone else see that TV commercials and shows are depicting that kids are the ones who are in charge of how they are raised? There is this one McDonald’s commercial that has a teen son taking his parent’s food and they do nothing… I find this repulsive.
Could always be worse.
I find McD’s repulsive too.
Teachers have enough on their plates already. Learning is not the first thing that happens in schools. Behavior management is the number one priority and anything after that is a bonus.
Fixed Cross
I happen to think that your insight was right on. Just because everything turned out alright that time, unfortunately, it doesn’t mean that it would/will again and it doesn’t mean that he wasn’t being kind of negligent. It’s one thing to allow our young children their mistakes - they are learning experiences - but it is another to “expect” that everything will turn out alright simply because we see it that way. i can only visualize the scene as you stated it - he might have been more diligent and taken more care for her safety. Not enough freedom is not a good thing nor is too much freedom a good thing at that age. It seems to me that he might have been over-judging her physical prowess (as a father will do) albeit she was okay and was also allowing her too much freedom for her tender age and for the situation. Parenthood IS a balancing act.
I’ve seen parents many times wandering away from their young children while in the park while they are playing on the rides or while their children are bycicling around. It’s as if they feel others will be watching out for them or god will be watching out for them. They value their cell phones and laptops more than their children or at least it would appear to be that way. Actions do speak louder than words. Would they leave thier cell phones and laptops on park benches and wander off? No way unless they didn’t realize it. Am I judging them here, Fixed Cross - you better believe I am. And have I spoken with them about it? You better believe I have. I would only become truly venonmous when the need arose. You would be surprised how many parents are idiots.
I’d need to find something other than leeches and snakes first. I’ve had my share of their ‘hugs’.
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Kriswest,
You’re insincere in your motivations. You’re looking for validation, not truth.
You’re not interested in being a good parent, you’re interested in FEELING like one.
You remind me of my mother.
That’s an insult.