In the consideration of the topic of casual sex, I think that there’s probably too much focus on how we evolved sexually in terms of strictly reproductive biology and not enough focus on how we evolved sexually in terms of building and sustaining connections biology. Our culture has developed with both influences, but it’s always a struggle to find the balance. Both male and female brains are wired for, and thus capable, of rational and logical thinking. Generally speaking, however, males’ emotional development has evolved to consider the sexual act itself as the goal so that the sperm fertilizes eggs. Just as females’ emotional development has evolved to consider as goals what happens next: the conception, birth and care of the offspring. I’m not saying that either is superior because both are necessary, but I think our societal imbalance comes, in part, from too much emphasis on the male perspective…which is, of course, the result of historical patriarchy and the one-sided influence of men in the public sphere.
Casual sex makes sense emotionally for males, particularly for younger ones in the prime of their sexual virility. But females of childbearing age have a different makeup. Unfortunately, the way that sexuality is treated by the popular culture, by the media and the entertainment industry, is heavily influenced toward the male perspective of sexuality. Women have only begun to gain economic and political power on their own…and it’s a mixed bag when they do, because the dregs of patriarchy persist. That’s why you find some women supporting porn or other forms of objectification of females, those that portray them as male fantasy fuck objects for economic gain. That’s the negative aspect of low-cultural influence. It’s counter-balanced by the higher level of cultural influence that drives both men and women toward achieving balance in their own sexuality, putting it in its proper place and working in their lives to build the character of their children and strengthen their families and their communities.
I guess the point is that we all have brains that are programmed to make us vulnerable to sexual behavioral imbalance, but those same brains are also capable of self-reflection and contemplation about the consequences of behavioral excess to ourselves and those we care about. Brains are capable of this form of maturity, in other words. And we’re social creatures, which is why our connections, meaning our families, friends and communities are necessary to help us to find and maintain the balance. And each generation has to leave behind the legacy of balance by teaching the next generation how to live that way, too.
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Someone’s been living the American Psycho dream too long. 
